Why all is fair in love and Greek Families

I was raised by Greek parents, who had fairly limited parenting skills, this is my opinion. In fact, I feel to some degree they lacked basic thinking skills or honestly didn't know what to do with a child like me. It is a wonder that i have not become a deviant criminal of sorts. Everything in my home growing up centered around the family and social peer group which were other Greeks from the same region in Greece. These were the people i was compared to, and in general this was the group i was to launch through. Now, a lot of what the girls had to endure was a completely ridiculous double standard, which existed in my family, but, not in a dictatorship kind of way. I mean in other homes there was actual nastiness, in order to uphold these moral codes and norms of the peer group. In my home it was done by the subtle manner of guilt. So, there was a lot of passive aggressive types of behavior which are the ways to imbue guilt in children. I have for the most part refused to participate in manipulating family through using this system of guilting them through the social peer group to do the right thing. Partly, because i abhor this system. However, in the Greek family, i have come to the conclusion that its the only way. It is not beneficial for someone to be brazen and self-sufficient in fact it may rob you of your inheritance, and one does not put up with the Greek family peer group pressure for nothing, and to be stripped of ones rightful inheritance. Due to the interdependency of Greek family structure, what would seem like very co-dependent games, or sick behaviors are normal and prized behaviors when relating with ones family. Although, when i engage in them i do get to some degree residual spiritual disturbances. However, these are in my opinion like turbulence within a smooth flight, necessary to the journey or task at hand.
What i have to realize is that dispassionate, self-sufficient, brazen personality traits all valued by American, or Anglo culture, are actually punished to some degree by Greek culture. I am not going to get into the particulars of this case of family disturbances, but, the family of origin is in for some turbulence. I am really, not going to tough this one out. They have to pay the piper, is my opinion.
Now, for my cooking, i have youvrelakia (meatball, with rice soup today). I don't feel like cooking i may make some cinnabons, or scones, but, i don't know my kiddo seems to love pretzels so i make some of those. I boil mine. I don't want to buy the frozen ones i am afraid of the margarine, i swear i feel like nothing can burn this substance fully. Margarine is my ultimate fat that should never be consumed.
Also, back to family, and giving them the truth, and having them own up to their behaviors, fully, i was talking to my ex co-worker last night. And what i admire in her is her tenacity and strength. She has lived in three countries all her life and she is a fighter, but, in a very good way, the way I have always felt kind of being above me to do. Why should i feel so holier than thou? Why should i have to take on other peoples slack but, expect no one to take my own when i need someone too?
Greek families, you are born into them for a reason, and in some cases it is to fight like the Dickens, as is this case, i am facing right now. It could get ugly so i warn everyone.
On a lighter note, it is my husbands Saints Feast day, St. Demetrios day, so we wished him happy feast day, he said he didn't want anything special sweets wise, so that is o.k. he is really not much of a sweets eater. I will not talk to much about him since it is a blog about me, and it is not fair to his person, to discuss him.
I don't have any incredible pearls of wisdom today. In fact i have way too much damage control cleaning to do, due to the weekend, tomorrow and Wednesday are school holidays, so this week is shot. My roses have come open, pink and white, i need to plant some rosemary bushes, i really like them, and use them for a cake, i keep taking some from this huge bush from a neighbors i told her she doesn't mind.
I also, need to purchase a scale, for the kitchen, i have just realized after 13 plus years of living here, that, cups in Europe are different than in the states, for dry ingredients etc...So, i need to be able to measure the stuff out in grams, and i cant always do it with just looking at it, although i have gotten quite good at that. I know, higher cognitive skills come into their own when cooking metric...
My paper was also read at a conference in Spetzes, for the T.E.I. Pereuas, a technical university here, it had favorable reviews, however, i don't trust favorable reviews, and i didn't get to read my own paper, so i am to some degree happy and disappointed that i couldn't read my own paper. So, you win some and you lose some, but, all is fair in love and Greek Families.